A while back I was traveling, as usual, when I’m having a long trip without my son I always take a book and magazine on the road to read. While I was sitting there minding my own business and reading my book. Very unconsciously, my curious ear began to hear a conversation that had nothing to do with me. As I sat there doing my best not to listen to the conversation and focus on the book I was reading. It was just impossible, because the conversation had taken my full attention away from the book, and I was no longer interested in the book I was reading. But I could not stop feeling like I was invalidating a private conversation and somehow I had guilty feelings. I don’t know how but I automatically, I stopped reading and I started listening to a very interesting conversation they were having. While they were talking, I was hoping we could stop at the same station because I was so intrigued by the conversation they were having that I did not want them to stop. As the trip extended the start conversation with a new subject about, a positive mindset.

Adopting a really positive attitude can work wonders to adding years to your life, a spring in your step, a sparkle in your eye, and all of that.

One of them told a story about how her point of view changed since she starts reading a book, about how to train your mind to be positive. She was telling her friend that she had to learn how to have a positive mindset and how she had a hard time about being positive because it wasn’t a custom of her. Because she always lived her life as it is and she never saw it different. But the more she was reading that book, she unconsciously began to adjust things she was reading in her daily life. As I was sitting there listening to they a lovely conversation I was hoping she would say the title of the book she was talking about before they step out the train. As I predicted, they went away and she never says the title of the book and I didn’t want to be rude, so I did not have the guts to ask.

You have no choices about how you lose, but you do have a choice about how you come back and prepare to win again.

You can imagine how disappointed I was with myself, for not asking about the title of the book she was talking about :). But she put me thinking about my own positive mentality, how positive am I? And how can I train my mind to be positive? From the day I heard this conversation on the train, I never stop to think about it. But I did not have this book to train my mind so I had to do something different so I could train my mind to be more positive. So I started to make a positive wall of quotes. I began to notice that the more I focused on positive things the more I started to see things in a very different way. I started to be more optimistic, I was doing my best to keep my mind positive, I was having some difficulties being positive all the time. I must say that it is not an easy way to live because on a daily basis it is not as easy as it seems. I start to understand what she meant when she said she had to learn how to have a positive mindset and at the start, she had a hard time about being positive because it wasn’t a custom of her. Because she always lived life as it is and she never saw it different” 

If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges.

Although I find it hard to stay positive all the time. I made a choice to continue training my mind in having a positive mindset. Step by step, I’m learning about training my mind to have a positive mindset, I’ve created a positive wall in my home where I hang all my quote with a positive mindset. This helps me train my mind to maintain a positive mindset. It may sound cliché, but it helps and even my son started to make his positive wall in his room as well. It has been so fun doing it and my wall is looking very Pinterest and fashionable. The reason I wrote this blog is also to say that I have found the book and it is from a Dutch writer and the book is called MIND GYM.  If one of you has a recommendation on how to train a mind to be more positive, please leave a comment. I would like to know what do you do to you stay positive? thank you <3

I hope you like it.  Have a beautiful day and may God bless you above all your expectations <3 
              – COM MUITO AMOR, MET VEEL LIEFDE, WITH MUCH LOVE-                                                  – HERCHAPTER – By Custodia Chineva-

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    6 May 2018 at 15:57

    Wat een leuke rok!

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    3 May 2018 at 09:52

    Je ziet er weer schitterend uit, echt om door een ringetje te halen. Positief zijn is iets wat je soms wel moet leren, zeker als je altijd de neiging hebt gehad om negatief over jezelf te denken, al dan niet aangepraat door anderen..

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    dresses and daisies
    2 May 2018 at 13:17

    Guuuuurl, you look fabulous!
    Eens negatief mag af en toe ook. Wees gewoon jezelf (met een tikkeltje ‘je mag ook eens droevig, boos, bang… zijn).

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    1 May 2018 at 12:43

    Fab outfit girl! I totally agree that we should be more positive. It all start with yourself 😀

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    30 April 2018 at 21:59

    Wat goed om positief te zijn. Veelste weinig doen uet nog.

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    30 April 2018 at 19:21

    hahaha, als je reist maak je van alles mee. Daar blog ik graag over. Leuke outfit, staat je goed

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    30 April 2018 at 17:31

    Looking beautiful and very positive! Good attitude, you rock woman!

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    30 April 2018 at 16:25

    Te gekke outfit! Dat zachtroze staat je heel goed:)

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    Laura | I scream beauty
    30 April 2018 at 15:36

    Ik hou van je outfits!!

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    30 April 2018 at 15:04

    Wat een super leuke outfit! En het meeluisteren met anderen snap ik heel goe, ik doe het ook vaak onbewust. Sommige gesprekken zijn erg grappig en sommige zijn erg serieus waardoor ik weer over dingen ga nadenken. Het is onbeleefd maar soms brengt het je wel verder.

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    30 April 2018 at 13:47

    Thinking positive is a life savour. I know what I’m talking about after losing a child. With a positive mind, you can overwin everthing!

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    Nicole Orriëns
    30 April 2018 at 13:35

    Ik vind het superleuk hoe de laagjes van je topje ook terug komen in je rok. Wat een vrolijke outfit. Hij danst als het ware vind ik.

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    30 April 2018 at 12:37

    Wat een heerlijke instelling je straalt het gewoon uit op de foto’s! Ben wel heel benieuwd om welk boek het nu ging.

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    30 April 2018 at 12:30

    Wat een uniek moment, en wat een geluk dat je op deze manier bewust bent geworden van positieve gedachten! Het is een onderwerp wat ik persoonlijk erg belangrijk en interessant vind. Zelf vind ik dat positief denken en in oplossingen denken zoveel meer ruimte en energie geeft. En dat mensen waarbij het glas standaards half leeg is (en daar veel over klagen) mij altijd leegzuigen.

    Het blijft een mooi en interessant onderwerp (en de foto’s zijn ook erg mooi trouwens!) en ik hoop dat het je lukt om de titel van het boek te achterhalen.

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    30 April 2018 at 12:15

    My daughter recently was also talking about a positive wall. I am positive 😉 it will help. But sometimes life throws you a curve ball and then to feel what you feel is oke. If you can find the positive in the negative it can help you cope with it. Lovely blog you have!

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    30 April 2018 at 11:36

    Goed van je om er iedere dag voor te kiezen om positief te zijn. Deden maar meer mensen dat!

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    30 April 2018 at 11:25

    Nice blog, understandable you didn’t want to intrude, on the other hand, it could have saved you all lot of searching. However, the same search made you start your positive wall. I guess that’s the universe for ya ?

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    30 April 2018 at 11:08

    If your mind is positive the rest will follow. I know that and I try to do it but not every day is easy 🙂 Problems at work, bad weather, etc.

    Anyway, your article is a good reminder and I’ll try to start with today and be the whole day positive! Nice outfit also!

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    30 April 2018 at 10:41

    het is toch ook moeilijk om altijd maar positief te blijven, ik snap helemaal dat je dit gesprek ‘ overhoorde’ en dacht ik wil weten welk boek dit is. Dat wil ik nu ook 🙂 Je ziet er weer prachtig uit, ik ben fan van je shirt, heerlijk fluffy!

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    30 April 2018 at 10:09

    Absolutely Fabulous. I reckon you’re on insta also?

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    30 April 2018 at 10:06

    Beautiful article. And the outfit is so gorgeous, looks so good on you! I’m a fan.

    Xxx, Eva

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