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I like a saying in Dutch, which says like this: A ” NO ” YOU’VE IT, AND A ” YES ” YOU CAN GET.
It’s a matter of daring to ask for a ‘yes or no’ if you do not ask, the answer will always be a ‘no’. Whatever you want to have a “yes”, you have to have the courage to ask first, otherwise, you will never get it. One of the greatest examples is that of Jehovah’s Witnesses, how many times have you said “no” to one of them? probably several times, as I did in the past. But what keeps them moving is not the negative reaction they get, but the belief that there is a person who will say yes and will be willing to listen to the message they have. I think this is one of the reasons why they do not stop until someone wants to hear what they mean. What I most admire in this kind of person is patience and perseverance after so many negative responses, all they want to hear is just a yes.
Although a “no” is a very small word, it is also a word that has the power to make us doubt our abilities and makes us doubt ourselves to a certain extent that we grant.
Getting a ” no ”, discourages our will, and even the will to move forward can also be discouraged only by receiving a ” no ” in response. In addition, in my opinion, I think that even having these bad feelings we have to allow ourselves to feel them, this to help us proceed. Because if we don’t allow ourselves to feel, we harm ourselves and we will not be able to reason better what was the reason for ‘no’ and how we can prepare and develop the best to get a ” yes ” next time.
My favorite words are possibilities, opportunities, and curiosity. I think if you are curious, you create opportunities, and then if you open the doors, you create possibilities.
It may sound like getting a ” no ” is something that I like to hear, it does not matter whether I like it or not, it’s because I’m used to it because I’ve been rejecting it so many times. It felt like I was forced to learn how to deal with getting a ” no ”, and how not to be disappointed after I have been rejected so often. Even after I received so much no, I’m always well aware that I have dreams and goals to achieve, and somehow I will always find a way to get a yes from someone, just to bring me closer to my goals and dreams.
Sometimes getting a ” no ”, isn’t as bad as it seems, for me the important thing is how to deal with this rejection. It’s also important to know what to do after getting a “no”, what are you going to do about it? Receiving a “No” can be a blessing, but only you have the ability to analyze it and take a look forward, it’s all about what you’re going to do, if you give up after a no, you can never a yes. We have the ability to determine how a negative reaction affects us, no one can do that for us. A ” no ” is never the end of the world, but an opportunity to see how great a new challenge can be. Maybe a ” no ” is a chance for several opportunities to achieve something better than what you were intending. It’s all about the angle you look at.
We must dare to think ‘unthinkable’ thoughts. We must learn to explore all the options and possibilities that confront us in a complex and rapidly changing world.
It is also with a negative reaction that we have the desire to continue to achieve our goals.
Sometimes it is only to prove to ourselves that we are still qualified to perform a job where someone questions our knowledge. I have learned that getting a ‘no’ doesn’t always have to be something negative and it can also be something very positive. By receiving a “no”, we can learn to explore our boundaries, we can learn to deal with our adversity and in this way, we get to know ourselves better and this can expand our understanding in our own development.
About my outfit: I wore this yellow dress for some time, but I did not want to buy a new shirt or blouse that fit my skirt, so I wore the same dress, but this time as a blouse. It was something I usually do in my day-to-day life, but I would never do it on my blog. But I did just to prove my point, even when you get a “no,” remember there are many ways to turn that “no” into a yes, stay positive and focus, on your goals. ..
The vast possibilities of our great future will become realities only if we make ourselves responsible for that future.
I hope you like it. Have a beautiful day and may God bless you above all your expectations
– COM MUITO AMOR, MET VEEL LIEFDE, WITH MUCH LOVE –
– HERCHAPTER – By Custodia Chineva-