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Spring is one of my favorite seasons of the year, it brings with all seasons, a little rain, cold, hail and every now and then the sun rises. For me, spring symbolizes hope, hope that the days will improve, we can see those improvements in the nature around us, such as flowers that grow, the leaves that grow in the trees. The days that are born early and get dark late and even in we people are happier on sunny days. But what makes me happier in the spring is watching the kids play outside. The way the play and development of the friendship between them. The way the games change from year to year. It’s also really fun to see how they try different games so they can have fun with each other.
What interests me the most, is the way a friendship between the children arises. Without concepts and without being aware of it, especially when they find they have something in common, that way a friendship begins without them realizing. Even if they disagree and struggle, they will always find a way to reconcile, as if nothing had happened between them. We have often heard this saying, fighting between children is better when parents are not involved. Because the bickering always ends between the parents and the children will always find a way to reconcile.
The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing… not healing, not curing… that is a friend who cares.
it made me think of a case that I am going through, two years ago I moved to a city, left the north and moved to the south of the country. I’m already working and study here. But I haven’t made new friends. I asked myself so many times, why haven’t I made a new friend in two years? Why can’t I be just like a kid? My son is so social that when we go out, everyone on the street knows his name, even the parent of the children he plays with. After I thought about it, I come to a conclusion that maybe it’s because the children are innocent in the friendships and they don’t take thing so seriously. When it comes to adults is a very different story, we are well aware of our actions and most of the time they aren’t innocent. We have the tendency to experience things more personally or emotionally and we take things very seriously when it isn’t even necessary.
Friendship is a word that each person defines in his own way. Each of us gives different values to a friendship, this value can be combined with experience that we build with people around us. Every phase (teenager, puberty, adult, etc.) in our lives we get to know people who help us to pass the difficult time or just people with whom we create our crazy moments. But there comes a time where we discover who our friends are and who is not and some people aren’t meant to stay in our lives forever but they are there for moments when we need someone to just hold our hand and dry our tears when it’s needed. Some people are there for you, in every situation. You don’t need to explain yourself to them. They already know what’s going on because they’re always there.
The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity.
For me, friendship should have a foundation of trust and interest in maintaining that friendship should be on both sides. When a friendship is born by the force of nature and becomes a friendly bond. It will no longer be necessary to endeavor to be a true friend because nature will do his job, you just need to be a friend to each other.
As an adult, I have to admit that I have not always been a good friend to people who have me as a friend.
I must admit that I am very selective with my friends, I have never been one to have many friends. Maybe because I grew up in a house with lots of kids, and I always considered them as my friends, we used to do everything together. It was a habit that other children come to our house to play with us than vice versa because in our yard there were many children. We had a bond of friendship so strong that I never had the need to have friends from outside. The way we interacted back then has an influence on how I experience friendship now. Even after so many years, I’m still very careful with choosing my friends. The older I become, the less need I have to make new friends.
But I’m always open to meeting new people because I know that’s how people build a friendship.
I can’t even imagine where I would be today were it not for that one handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun.
I hope you like it. Have a beautiful day and may God bless you above all your expectations
– COM MUITO AMOR, MET VEEL LIEFDE, WITH MUCH LOVE –
– HERCHAPTER – By Custodia Chineva-